Tips About Long Distance Relationships

Every relationship encounters challenges — but long distance couples certainly have to deal with more challenges than the rest. Not being able to see each other causes a lot of complications that each man and woman has to deal with on his own.

Nevertheless, many couples manage to have successful long distance relationships. To find out how they do it, check out this list of the important things they keep in mind when they’re away from each other:

1. Don’t hold on to unrealistic expectations.
If your partner is not with you, he or she won’t be able to offer you support when you need it. Thus, you have to come to terms with the fact that you would have to get emotional support from your family and friends. Even if your partner wants to help you, it may be impossible for him or her to do so. You should learn to be self-reliant so you don’t have to rely on others to help you get through obstacles. You and your partner should discuss what each of you is like on ordinary days. Otherwise, each of you may expect the other to do grand things — such as taking time off from work or cooking special meals — on a regular basis. Real life isn’t always so idyllic.

2. Don’t believe in the perfect setting.
Often, you may not know what your partner is really like because you only spend a limited time with each other. When you do so, you’re often in your best behavior. In fact, you go out of your way to make sure that everything is perfect. You drop everything you’re doing or rearrange your schedule just so you could spend time with your partner. In the future, when you’re already together everyday, you may be shocked to find out that your partner acts differently when things are already normal.

3. Don’t avoid problems.
Most long distance couples often avoid dealing with problems because they feel that they have to make the most of the limited time they have with each other. Even in their phone conversations, they don’t tell each other bad news or confide about tough days. This should not be the case. Your partner should be aware of everything that’s going on in your life — whether it’s good or bad. This way he or she has a real picture of what you’re going through. If you only give your partner good news, he or she would believe that all is well even when you’re dealing with a bunch of problems on your own.

Keep in mind that the key to the success of long distance relationships is good communication. In this regard, honesty goes a long way.